" Ask Me" Advice Column

Have you ever been on a date and the first 15 mins is just wonderful. Well be careful, usually those are the type of relationships your in up in 15 min relationships. The best key for a relationship is to have ups and downs. When its all icing and cream there is no wrong. There is many results from tests which men and women take on a regular basis which identifies with the attraction trait. When you are attracted to somebody you seem to quickly fall in love. That first date shouldn’t be magic it should be a steady moment which either works out or don’t. There should be no in betweens it should be the most delightful dates you ever experienced or a nightmare date which you wouldn’t ever wanna dream of.

The signs of the first step is figuring out what this person is about. You shouldn’t fall head over heels over somebody in the first 15 mins that could lead into decption or betrayal. Many times when somebody quickly fall for somebody its instant and it isn’t developed. You wanna develop a relationship with this person and it shouldn’t be a quick love reaction that you receive.

 There is many experiences where somebody has fallen so deep with a person, upon the 15 mins of meeting them. Our brains think differently, you may fall in love with him/her and they might find you the same way which ends up in disappointment or denial. Many times denial can lead to obsession. You shouldn’t be obsessed over nothing so quickly because that will ruin that chance with the person. First step figuring them out. You figured them out now you wanna connect with them on a certain level. It would be favorite likes and dislikes anything.

A Do is learning a Don’t is rushing. Don’t rush it let it take its course, one of the biggest mistakes with people on their first date is that they rushing the sparks they forcing things that wasn’t meant to happen. You don’t wanna rush it you wanna learning this person ins and outs you wanna connect on a level of intensity with this person. You wanna know the true person not the outside layer. We sometimes see the cover and the title of the book but don’t look at the basic meaning or the summary before reading it. What doesn’t fit wasn’t meant to stay. Forcing love or desperate  measures of looking ends up in heartbreak because your not seeing it for what it really is. 

So some of the things I want you to do is learn before committing to anything that isn’t fully developed. Try a few dates sometimes they wasn’t meant to be. Everybody isn’t meant to be your friend/companion. So take it slow learn about it before you attempt it because you don’t wanna ruin nothing before there could be anything.