" Ask Me" Advice Column

Everybody been through some type of trusting issues. It can be within yourself or you can have trusting issues with somebody your close too or love. Many times trusting issues results personal fears. You could be afraid that somebody going to hurt you cheat on you or betray you. Trust starts with you, For you to trust somebody you got to trust yourself. Just like for you to love somebody you got to love yourself

Many reasons that trust doesn't allow many doors to open because so many doors are closed. You got to search within yourself to find out where did those doors ever get shut at which points in your life that you felt like somebody betrayed your trust. sometimes we don't trust because we fear our own self's. also to fear that since somebody hurt us in the past that this person might as well.

Spacing could cause a distance in your relationship. Once that space is closed that relationship can either begin to process or continue in growth. Trusting is key for any relationship regardless of what type of person you are in love with or who you love, you got to trust. try to find something in your relationship that is solving to your trusting issues. to gain trust you got to release your inner being and learning more about yourself and that other person ways. learning is always a way to better yourself and also better the relationship so that you can trust them more. Talk about everything on a one on one level. Keep it serious and keep it to the point which can lead into trusting more.

Trusting is never a ending factor. trusting can also become a drain confession within yourself to have to ever face. Specially when you don't trust somebody you seem to draw yourself away from them more and more. confess to them is serious because you want them to know the truth that you are feeling this way or distant from them because you got trusting issues. honesty is always the truth, when you speak the truth you feel like the true well being that your supposed to feel like.

Now the final part if you having trusting issues because this person did betray you or did cheat. then forgiveness should be the main goal to trying to achieve. Forgiving them can let go of all the inner stress and resentment towards that person. Sometimes when you have resentment you tend to not trust that person and thats normal and fine, but you wanna forgive them. also you should maybe try to work things out seek professional help such as a relationship counselor if they deceived you or betray you in some type of way. Or a therapist for one on one sessions for you to seek help for your own trusting issues.