" Ask Me" Advice Column

first send that person a hand written note, no email no txt phone calls or facebook! a hand written note and tell them that you are happy that the break up happened and in fact you were thinking about it too. wish them luck and a good health and thats it now you need anything between 3-5 weeks depending on how nasty the break up was.

for the first week you will be all miserable so you need to get out with your friends and also hit the gym a lil bit. for the second week you should start clubbing and getting out just having fun.... no hooking up.during this time you should have no contact with them nothing at all....call your friends and rant every time you feel like talking to them about it. make an anonymous blog and write down your emotions there daily trust me that will be used later.

now the third week is super important this literally the turning point. by this point their is wondering why you havent gotten in contact and they is probably doing everything from asking friends to creeping your facebook to find out why you havent called. this is where you should play the jealousy card. guys get jealous and let go of a girl but when girls get jealous they fight for it thats just the nature trying hanging out with people more and maybe do on a date or two. this is important to build your confidence which is an attraction factor to your ex. make sure they can easily find out about the fact you are dating around even if you actually are just meeting new people.
now the jealousy period should go on for a good lil while and watch out for signals during this time. the slightest things could work in my case it was the fact that they commented on a picture of yours on facebook that was only up for about 10 minutes meaning that they are constantly checked your facebook. later on you got to straight up asked them and if they said they did creep my facebook every time they got online so there you go! within the forth week try giving her a short call and ask her if she wants to go for lunch. make your schedule so you cant spend more than 30 minutes with her.

MAKE THAT 30 MINUTES FUN! you cant emphasize that enough that be cool and a bit flirty but dont bring anything up. trust me follow the instructions and by the end they was constantly asking you if you missed them. give it about 5-10 days depending on how the night went and call them and set up a date-like situation but dont call it that. from then on treat like its a new relationship with a new person do all the stuff the same way you did when you first met them. one last thing .....girls are like shadows you go towards them they go away from you! you walk away from them they follow you.....this is only if they have feelings for you men we are the total opposite. keep that in mind and opposites attract.