" Ask Me" Advice Column

Starting a new relationship first you got to get over the last one. Sometimes we get stuck on our last relationships that we get caught up trying to get into a new relationship. There is many things you must do before trying to enter a new relationship. First you got to start with yourself. love yourself, love you before you love anybody else. When you leave a relationship to get over that person get rid of all the items you ever had with them or of them. Anything get rid of it and move on completely. But first don't go into the next relationship with resentment towards your current relationship. remind yourself that when you hold on to what your ex done you cant move on to love somebody else. Because once you feel like something is going on you tend to remember the last. the process by moving on will help you get into a new healthy relationship without setbacks or trusting issues.

Moving on is easier said then done because when you loved somebody regardless of what caused that break you, You tend to forget what your trying to do. Talk to friends who also been in relationship problems and they was successful at moving on because they knew to forget and never hold on to the guilt or the memories because it over clouds your thoughts. Dont contact your ex don't stalk your ex, Learn to live without relying on that person which you didn't need in your life anyway. The chance you get to finalizing your status with your ex is the point where you can figure out where you wanna go and who you wanna end up with. now you wanna start searching because waiting doesn't always fulfill that need of love sometimes you got to find it on your own without turning back.

the process of finding somebody can always be difficult. specially when moving on to new relationships because your common factor always ends up back to square 1 the ex. You don't wanna turn back thats over your thoughts of that person is gone and your desire and need for them should no longer be there. Go on dates meet new people go on dating sites myspace whatever you feel that fits you the best to find somebody. when you start your new relationship after finding somebody remind yourself that you came a long way from your ex to now. Remind yourself that it wasn't always that way and you could of easily backtracked and been in that situation. now your talking to somebody and wanna take it future but you feel like you don't know how to trust them or you feel some type of resentment towards this new relationship because of your last.

Your in a new relationship you wanna trust this person, You do not want to remind your ex of this person because you will start feeling bitter towards them. This isnt simple but its often so that when somebody fall in love they always flashback to the past. It occurs it happens thats the way it is. you with this person, you don't want them to feel as if they are on the same platform as your ex. That will completely ruin the relationship and cause many issues between you and your new partner. Find out whats going on with your self and figure out how to fix it so your new relationship wont become a short relationship. Learn to love this person and remind yourself that its a new start and a new path to finding love. If you having problems you may wanna speak to friends or seek help by a therapist.