" Ask Me" Advice Column

Letting Go is one of the best things you can do when your in a bad relationship, because your releasing a lot of pressure and pain within your self. Many situations start in bad situations happen when you least expect them to. You got to look at what your putting yourself into, what you got other people into who really loves you, Who trying to tell you that this isn’t a healthy relationship. Unhealthy relationships could go on forever. The worst thing with dealing with an unhealthy relationships is fear of leaving it. The fear of losing something that you may have dealt with for years.

When you get that guilt with having thoughts of leaving that is signs of battling with pressure with yourself. A lot of times when people stay in bad situations its because they have no way of getting out. You got to trust and believe that there is a way if there is a will. You rely on this person for every single thing. That’s where they strip you from your stability. Your mother tried to help you, your sister cousins aunts, Everybody has tried to tell you that this is only killing you. When you hit that breaking point you will realize that love doesn’t live here anymore.

When love is gone your reason of being in that relationship is gone and has no validity. Your meaning your reasoning is no longer inputted because this person doesn’t need you or want you. But you keep finding yourself trying to fix the relationship and they just don’t care anymore. At this point you should think to yourself and plan a get away an escape for you or your family If you got children. If the person is saying I don’t love you, I don’t wanna be with you, its over leave stop staying here go away. This is examples of self abuse, Your allowing somebody to abuse you and your allowing somebody to take the best from you. When you allow somebody to use you your only using yourself.

When you ever been in a situation  and that problem is bigger then any problems your dealing with in that point in your life. that’s because your allowing this substance to abuse your self worth. One of the things you need to notice is that yourself worth isn’t something you should let anybody take from you. Your self respect is all you got to rely on when things and unhealthy relationships happen. You got to pull yourself out of that situation and realize the accuracy in that relationship. Correct the problem and the problem is that your staying in a relationship that isn’t wanted anymore.

Leave don’t sit there and try to fix the past or fix what isn’t going your way. No if this person that your involved with don’t want you no more and treats you bad, then that is a sign that your just being resistant. A no is a no there is no yes period point blank. This person is giving you the cold shoulder for a reason this is a cover up that your holding to keep strong and to make it work only hurting you. If you find yourself crying and in more pain this the other person that is only showing you that the love that the respect that the trust isn’t no longer there and this person doesn’t love you don’t mean they don’t love you but aren’t in love with you.

Sometimes we don’t understand that loving somebody and being in love with somebody is two different things. You love your father but your not going to be in love with him. that’s a different type of love. When you love somebody you care and you don’t wanna hurt them but if your not in love with somebody and they are in love with you and your telling them you don’t want them like that and they aren’t getting the signs then they are allowing themselves to be hurt. Love doesn’t hurt love shouldn’t be a resisting chain that never wiling to break. It is a companionship that two people share with each other, and if this person doesn’t love you stop sitting in that unhealthy relationship and find you somebody that will love you the way you love them.