" Ask Me" Advice Column

How can you be in love with somebody and say you do or commit to them and turn around and cheat. This may be a open relationship and don’t expect for him not to be getting his side relations either. When your having open relationships your allowing that commitment that trust that agreement of respect and love to be taken away. You either in love or your not there isn’t a in between in relationships. If there was a in between in relationships then 90% of the relationships would work. But the reason for relationships to crumble is because of a cheating boyfriend or a cheating girlfriend.

When you allow somebody to use you and to break you they take all your laws all your respect points away. You got self worth that isn’t something that you need to look up too but its something that you should keep. Giving away a part of you that belongs to somebody is a way of infidelity  that cant be resolved. When the situation hit’s the fan you got nothing and nobody to blame but yourself. You can not say why this or why that because at this point your doing to him what he can and will do to you. 

At the end of the day you cant say nothing about that situation because you put yourself in that situation. Why allow yourself to be hurt to just turn around and to hurt somebody. Hurting yourself is worst then hurting anybody because 50 times out of 100 you only going to end up with nothing. You going out cheating and he’s allowing it but when he finally gets fed up your going to end up with either lonely or with somebody who going to cheat and bring things into that relationship that doesn’t need to belong. a lot of things that happens when your cheating on somebody your just putting a negative block on your relationship.

This person can not trust you how can you expect anybody to wanna settle down and start a family and a life with somebody who openly admits that they cheat. That isn’t a healthy relationship that I would wanna get myself into or anybody else. I would not break that trust because once its broken your never getting it back. How are you devoted how do you love or care about this person and continuously cheat. The worst side of being sincere you can not be honest and open about cheating. This will back fire and its karma that will come full circle and for somebody to love someone else and to do this is sad I would advise the other person to leave you but who knows 9 times out of 10 they doing the same thing. This relationship is only going to hurt the both of them and they end up with nothing.