" Ask Me" Advice Column

Online dating is something that isn’t really taken serious. Many times online dating only leads to deceit and lies within a heartbroken person who thought it would last. Its pretty much a long distance relationship the thing with long distance relationships is that you barely see this person. So what’s better a long distance relationship or a online dating situation. Personally I feel as if though either one is good choices and I would advice for somebody to not get themselves into one or to just figure it out and accept it for what it is. Sometimes online dating got its benefits you get to know somebody either by seeing them or by noticing their character before their perpetration. Online dating could be difficult but also could help in many ways. Its like speed dating you get some time to get to know this person that you never met.

 But also that’s the other side of it. You never met this person and 90% of the time your only talking to a pretend or a person who is married and speaking with you on the low. Now with a online dating you can either take it serious or it could be a on going hobby something you do here and there and you appreciate it for what it is. I Have also spend time speaking to people who did online dating and 9 out of 10 of them said it wasn’t worth it. But they said the experience of getting to know the other person was one of the best experiences to get because you get an glance of something you never really tried before. The downs to online dating is simple 50 percent of them don’t work. Why because the only communication you get is online or over the phone. there is no interaction going on besides cyber via the web. So online dating isn’t a smart way to interact with somebody.

Now long distance relationships can seem very difficult but at least you got some type of way of seeing this person eye to eye contact or even having relations. The hard part is that you may not see the other person for months after that time of last spending with them. I have had dealt with a long distance relationship I was always traveling and the person I was dealing with she couldn’t really handle the way my job requirements had me be gone so much. The way to work out a long distance relationship is trust. Because with trust you can over come anything. Its just the commitment stages the part where you rely on this person to be there and to understand.

A lot of times long distance relationship requires a lot of explaining and a lot of disappointments. You either here or your not and when your gone your not around to be apart of things. Being married in a long distance relationship can be very difficult more then dating, because you leave so much into it and you forget that you got a wife at home or a husband with kids. 9 out of 10 long distance relationships can suffer way more then online dating because there’s a bond a connection that you have with a person when their far away. Now if you having a long distance relationship through state by state.


Now lets talk about long distance relationships that you don’t live together and yall state to state away or half way on the other side of country. That is difficult because your now dealing with two different worlds and two different life styles that you cant correct. That’s hard and dealing with that is more likely to not make it because its rare for that to be worked out. So I would say that either thing can be difficult and either one can be suffering but sometimes and with some people it works out fine. If its worth it for you if it makes you happy continue to do it, no matter what anybody says.